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Parents: “We have our work cut out for us” Talking About Sex and Other Hard Topics with Your Kids

June 2, 2015 By Leticia

Parents: "We have our work cut out for us." No One Ever Said Parenting Was Easy — TechSavvyMama.com

There are many firsts associated with childhood and while first steps, first words, and the first day of preschool and kindergarten are associated with innocence, the first sex ed talk at school that is a true sign of growing up.

Spring of fifth grade marked the start of family life and human sexuality (FLHS) curriculum. Teachers in our county were required to hold a parent information night to share what is being taught and to give us a chance to ask questions.

As one parent said at the meeting, “We have our work cut out for us.”
Certainly we do. No one ever said parenting was easy.

We’ve dealt with our share of hard topics through the years (how to handle bullies, school shootings, friendship issues, the importance of kindness). Just like the conversations we’ve had about digital safety and underage drinking, our discussions about puberty and how your hormones change your body are just another part of growing up and I refuse to let them be taboo, awkward, or scary in our home.

Yes, I grabbed the bull by the horns and took charge of what I wanted Emily to know well before the school’s FHLS meeting. And I’m glad I did.

What did I do to prepare? 

Besides being honest with her, here’s a quick list of 5 things to do to make the most challenging topics less scary for you and your child whether the conversation is about puberty, sex, underage drinking, social media safety, or anything you may encounter in your many years of parenting.

6 Ways to Make the Most Challenging Topics (like sex and drinking) Less Difficult for You and Your Child. Tips on TechSavvyMama.com

Study Up

Learn about how these topics might affect kids your age. What does current research say? What are the hot topics? What might be discussed as part of the school curriculum and what questions could come up at home after a day in class? Think ahead to how might you discuss these things with your kids.

Seize the Moment

If your child brings the topic up, they’re ready to talk about it. Rather than shy away from the hard stuff, seize the teachable moment and have a conversation. As hard as it may be to have the first conversation, it opens the door to many more and you’ll be glad your child came to you rather than relying on their peers.

Make it Age Appropriate

Kids ask about sex at different ages but what do they really want to know? Ask. The curiosity that a 5 year old has about how babies are made greatly differs from the conversation to have with your dating teen and chances are your child might not be asking what they think they are at this point in time. Breath a sigh of relief as you let them guide the conversation but just know things will get more real before you’re truly ready!

Know Your Experts

Where can you go to get information about these topics? It’s time to do your research now and know who you can turn to. Perhaps it’s the local librarian to serve as a resource for age appropriate books, your child’s pediatrician, or another parent who has been through the same thing with their child. Have your experts lined up and use them.

Learn Together

Don’t know something? Learn together by seeking out the answer from trusted resources. Not only does it show your kids that you have a vested interest in them but it serves as a bonding experience and opens the door for more conversations.

Rely on Your Village

How are friends, neighbors, members of your church, to the fellow parents on the sidelines of your kids’ sporting events handling the same topics in their house? What questions have come up and what are they saying to their kids? Having a conversation about these topics with other parents is a way to share information to ensure that all kids are getting accurate information about important issues from those in their lives.

This is not a sponsored post. All ideas and opinions are 100% mine and inspired by the FLHS school meeting I attended.

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  1. Kimberly @ Red Shutters says

    June 2, 2015 at 10:16 am

    Perfect timing! I was just talking with a colleague who was struggling to explain where babies come from to her step-daughter. I shared your post with her – we parents need to support one another!

    Great post!

    • Leticia says

      June 2, 2015 at 11:47 am

      I’m so glad that my post was timely and could help! So many conversations we have with our kids are circular- they come and go but are important to go back to as they grow and change! Good luck to your colleague!

  2. Annie {Stowed Stuff} says

    June 2, 2015 at 10:35 am

    So true about the talk being age appropriate and then revisiting. It’s so important to be able to talk about ALL OF IT with your kids. Open communication is key – especially with the tough subjects!

    • Leticia says

      June 2, 2015 at 11:47 am

      As much as we don’t want to talk about these things with our kids, we have to! Opening lines of communication for hard topics makes them realize that they can come to us about anything- easy, hard, and silly!

  3. Melissa Angert says

    June 2, 2015 at 9:04 pm

    i found trying to plan this talk was too stressful… So I just waited for the moment to come and we ended up having a long conversation in the car on the way home one day. Letting it come naturally was so less stressful because I didn’t have time to overthink!

    • Leticia says

      June 2, 2015 at 11:07 pm

      Hooray for seizing upon the teachable moment and I often find talking in the car can be so powerful! Not only are kids captive audiences but they do really hear you and it’s often less awkward since you’re not face to face! Glad your talk went well!

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