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Important Conversations to Have with Your Kids About Instagram

July 20, 2015 By Leticia

Since Lisa Frame posted The Very Public Side of Private Instagram Accounts on this blog, we’ve received comments expressing reactions ranging from surprise to those saying that this is just another example of the lack of cross platform security that has always existed as data moves fluidly across social networks and sharing tools. The post wasn’t meant to be a scare tactic to make parents feel overwhelmed about social networking tools that seem impossible to monitor. Like the many other posts that I write for this site, Lisa’s post was meant to be educational and create an important conversations to have with your kids about Instagram. We know they’re eager to have the same tools we’re using to connect with their friends as we do with ours.

As adults, we have a lifetime of experience and healthy skepticism. We’ve been around enough to understand the pros and cons, risks and rewards of being online and having social media tools at our disposal. We know that private doesn’t always mean private but how do you start talking to your kids about Instagram? Here’s how you can start.

Important Conversations to Have with Your Kids About Instagram

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Everyone brings a different philosophy to parenting with our own belief systems and approaches to raising our children. This set of guidelines is designed to create an open ended conversation with Instagram about your kids but ultimately you know your child best. The age of your child and their experience with Instagram can drive your family conversation but please know there is no right or wrong way to talk about online privacy issues and social sharing.

Start by creating a dialogue to talk through different Instagram scenarios

Whether your child has an Instagram account or wants one, it’s never too late to talk to them about why they have one or why they want one. “Because my friend has one” isn’t a good enough reason. It’s easy to feel pressured into allowing your kids to have an account without having a conversation that demonstrates mutual understanding the risks and rewards associated with using Instagram but if they have a good reason to be on it, talk them through any of the 7 different scenarios below. These are designed to get them thinking about their presence on the social media platform, how their friends use it, and how their account can show they’re a responsible digital citizen.

1. Who will you follow?

Talk to them about how to verify who is who on Instagram and why it’s important to only follow those they know. If they have favorite brands whose accounts they follow or would like to follow, take a look at those accounts together and talk about why they follow, or want to follow, them. Instagram accounts from companies like GoPro and National Geographic feature gorgeous family-friendly images that can serve as models.

2. What photos are and aren’t ok to share? How do you want to be seen on Instagram?

Instagram can be the ultimate expression of self for today’s digital kids but it’s important for kids to be mindful about what they’re wearing and what appears in the background to ensure that they’re being appropriate without giving up too much information that allows them (or their location) to be easily identified.

3. What happens if you post a photo with a friend that they’re not ok with? How might you talk to your friend about taking down a photo you don’t want everyone to see?

Everyone loves a good selfie with friends but this question helps kids realize the importance of respect in the digital space.

4. Do you think your feelings can be hurt through Instagram?

This open ended question will help gauge where your child is in their understanding of the platform. Chances are that your fairly new Insta user may think that Instagram is just for sharing photos but older teens may have a better understanding of the secret language of emojis and insights into like currency. Time.com’s The Secret Language of Girls on Instagram provides an inside look at how girls are using the service for much more than photo sharing while The Secret Language of Emojis on Instagram provides a peek at how combined emojis can be a language of their own.

5. What would you do if some of your friends are being mean through their comments?

We know how fickle teens can be. One minute you’re best friends and the next minute there’s all kinds of friend drama. Back in the day most of this friend drama occurred through face to face interactions but now thanks to social media tools, it can be 24/7 and hard to turn off.

6. What happens if you get a request from a follower you don’t know and you click on their account to find a photo of their privates?

I recently clicked through an account of someone who liked my photo only to find a 15 second video of his erection. Gross, I know! When my daughter, Emily, was in middle school, I asked her what she would do and she immediately said she’d report it. There’s no gray area about inappropriate content on Instagram and our kids should feel empowered to report inappropriate materials they see.

7. What do you think it means to have a private account?

We know that private doesn’t always mean private and things shared online are there forever but how do we get our kids to understand these very important concepts when it’s hard for them to think about how what they post might affect them in the long run? Use the toothpaste analogy. It’s easy for kids of all ages to understand that what they share online and through social networks is like toothpaste. Once it’s out there, it’s out there for good.

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Take a look at their friends’ accounts

Sometimes the best way to learn is through friends and chances are that there’s a whole lot of learning that can happen by examining the Instagram content of others. Pull up a friend’s Instagram account and go on a scavenger hunt for:

  • Favorite photos- Ask your child what they love about that particular photo to spark a discussion about what makes a great photo
  • Identifying information in any photo– Street signs, house numbers, the name of your school on t-shirts, etc. can be an unintentional way to share where you live, go to school, and favorite places to hang out without realizing it
  • Selfies- From facial expressions to outfits, all are worth examining through a selfie to get your kid thinking about how they want to express themselves online. Ask them if that photo is one their friend would be ok showing their grandparents. If so, it’s probably ok to share. If not, it should be taken down.
  • Captions- A picture may be worth 1000 words but what do the captions say? The text accompanying an Insta is also important to consider. Encourage your child to think before they type!

Serve as a model for what you want their Instagram accounts to look like

Do you have an Instagram account? If so, your account can show your child the kinds of content you expect them to share and ways to properly interact with friends. By serving as a role model, you’re teaching your child social media best practices. Hopefully their friends will notice and start to follow their example as a good digital citizen.

If you don’t have an Instagram account, who do you know that has one and uses it well? Reference theirs in your conversation and open it up to take a look. If your looking for one to serve as a model, you can always refer to my Instagram account!

Follow your child’s Instagram account

Just as you probably have rules for the digital devices in your home, there should be rules for the apps and social networks they put on them. Following your child on Instagram isn’t meant to be a helicopter parent tactic and just another thing you have to do. It’s just smart parenting.

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  1. Annie {Stowed Stuff} says

    July 21, 2015 at 9:10 am

    Oh I LOVE the recommended talking points that are listed here. So many parents will benefit from these scripted questions. The important conversations will happen. Great post!

    • Leticia says

      July 21, 2015 at 11:27 pm

      Thanks! I’m so glad you liked this post! These conversations are so important but they can also be SO hard if you don’t know where to start. I like helping parents feel less overwhelmed by providing practical info that they can really use in daily life.

  2. Betsy says

    July 21, 2015 at 9:14 am

    My daughter has an Instagram account and she is 9. We do it together. I have used it as a live learning tool. She doesn’t want anyone to follow her that she doesn’t know.

    • Leticia says

      July 21, 2015 at 11:26 pm

      I think it’s great that you work on Instagram together! I’m a big advocate for parents learning from their kids and younger kids learning alongside their parents! I hope that with everything she’s learning from you, that one day she will be a role model for her peers!

    • Mirela says

      August 10, 2015 at 3:10 pm

      Betsy your douther is very smart 🙂 I don’t have a children, but i like your ride to social media.
      Leticia good job! (I share it 🙂

  3. Vicky says

    July 21, 2015 at 10:16 am

    This is excellent! Thank you! I know we are just beginning to get into this stuff in my house and I will use this as a guide.

    • Leticia says

      July 21, 2015 at 11:28 pm

      You are so welcome and I’m glad this is helpful! You know where to find me if you have any questions! Feel free to ask because we’re all in this together! 🙂

  4. Pat Fenner says

    July 21, 2015 at 10:44 am

    Letitia, Found you over from the Mom Bloggers Blog Hop! This is an EXCELLENT article; recommended reading for parents-of-tweens-and-up, in my book!
    Would you consider sharing it at our Coffee & Conversation LInk Party tomorrow at Mom’s Morning Coffee? I’d also like to include it in a back-to-school round up that I’m working on for next month, if that’s ok with you.

    Thank you SO much for sharing your wisdom!

    • Leticia says

      July 21, 2015 at 11:24 pm

      Hi Pat! I’m so glad you like my post and yes- I’d be happy to share it at your Coffee & Conversation Link Party. Do you have a link you can send me to link up? Thanks for offering to include it in a back to school roundup next month! I’d love that! Thanks so much for your support and I’m so glad this piece was helpful!

  5. Michele P says

    July 26, 2015 at 1:57 pm

    All very good points! My daughter is 13, and doesn’t have an Instagram account yet though many friends of hers do. All of this has changed since I was her age, and it is important for her to feel comfortable using different forms of social media but also be aware of the consequences and dangers out there. Definitely bookmarked this to go over with her in the near future. Thanks for such a helpful article/post.

  6. Leigh Anne Borders says

    July 27, 2015 at 6:00 pm

    Great article! I am a mom and a schoolteacher and I am amazed at how many parents do not know or check their child’s accounts. Even as a teacher some of the kids are signing up for accounts without their knowledge and even being too young. I will share your article!

  7. Tammy Woodall says

    August 4, 2015 at 12:54 pm

    This is a very important article – thank you for sharing it. I’m going to share this with family members. I think this is an important subject that all parents should be aware of and take your great suggestions on “how to” deal with some of the issues involved with talking with our kids about Instagram.

  8. Stridepost says

    August 10, 2015 at 12:28 pm

    Thanks for sharing this great article. Every family feels differently about social media, but this is a great guide for keeping your child safe and having meaningful conversations about Instagram should and shouldn’t be. We’re all about Your Family, Your Pace!

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